I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the comfort zone. As we grow up, throughout our teenage years and even in our early twenties, we are constantly told ‘we should do this, we should do that’, instead of being encouraged to find our own paths and develop our own understands of what works and what doesn’t. I’ve been travelling for over three months now, and put it this way, if I collected a dollar (ew, I still haven’t become used to that), every time someone told me I should do something a certain way, I wouldn’t be worrying about money or a job right now.
There’s a big taboo regarding our comfort zones, there always had been, frequently being told that we shouldn’t be afraid to step outside of our little bubble and push ourselves to do something we wouldn’t normally do. Of course, this is brilliant, and I do believe that during certain occasions, I should probably push myself more. And of course, I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t take a leap out of comfort, but what is the rush? Why do I have to push myself when other people I sometimes barely know are telling me to, instead of pushing myself when I choose to? Especially if I’m perfectly happy living the way I currently am during a particular moment.
I’m a stereotypical blogger. I enjoy my own company, I don’t like socialising too much and I’m perfectly happy sat in the cosiness of my living room, television background noise, my dog by my side whilst writing or reading. And I don’t see that as a bad thing; I’m comfortable and I’m also happy. I also find it difficult to push myself. I can be quite shy person and I’m not necessarily confident when I’m in an uncomfortable situation. And as much as I don’t see this as a problem, other people do. The older I get, the more I become more and more frustrated with other people. I’m becoming fed up of people telling me how to live my life, or I should do something because it would be good for my personal development. Yup, maybe it would be, but if I’m not in the right frame of mind or if I don’t want to do it during that particular moment; I’m not going to.
I don’t agree with people who tell me and other people how to live in a way that they think will benefit me. The majority of the time, I am a confident person and I do enjoy challenges and pushing my limits in order to succeed and develop further as a person; however, I’ll do this in my own time and in my own way. The reality is, those people have no idea what is going on in my mind to make my decisions for me. For example, last week I spent every day handing out my CV into shops around Brisbane – something I completely dreaded. I’d been told to do this for several weeks beforehand, but I simply didn’t feel ready to during that time, therefore, I’d have struggled a lot more than I did when I felt ready. And guess what? I went in those shops extremely confident and ready.
People need to realise that others are quite happy in their own little bubble; it’s what makes them happy. And I don’t think I’ll ever understand why people think they know my brain better than I do. Staying in a hostel might be fun, but I don’t want to do it; fruit picking and shitting in composting toilets in the middle of nowhere might make me less materialistic, but again, I don’t want to do it, not yet, anyway; I don’t want to be told to socialise more, I’m quite happy socialising when I feel the need to. This isn’t a post saying that you shouldn’t push yourself – I think doing this is a must. I’m just saying that we should push ourselves when we feel like we need to, not when other people tell us we should. Deciding for yourself what constitutes a good life is what gives you the freedom to live the life the way you want to, that isn’t a decision that could possibly be made by someone else.
I don’t generally think that comfort zones are something we should be in our entire lives, and I do believe that eventually, pushing yourself further is a necessity – I just think we should be encouraged to leave our little bubbles in our time time; when we think it is the right time. So, here’s to comfort zones and leaving them when we want to, not when society or other people tell us to. Do it in your own time, and in your own way. At the end of the day, you know what is best for you.